'You better cough up the dough': Bridezilla demands maid of honor purchase a dress she'll never wear again, divides Internet

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Nov 17, 2023 8:00 AM EST

The amount of money people are expected to casually spend on their friends' weddings is one of society's greatest ills at the moment. From exorbitant costs spent on flights and hotels for bachelor/bachelorette parties to money spent on bridal showers and gifts for the actual wedding weekend, the expenses can feel endless and can almost certainly put someone into debt. No one said anything about how budgeting for your best friend's wedding would be as hard to do as budgeting for your own adult life!

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    It's my turn now"
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  • This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/throwawaybride824, who seemed to have zero self-awareness and was incapable of recognizing that she was the bad guy in this situation. She had decided that the color scheme for her wedding would be green and pink, but she would only allow her Maid of Honor (and best friend for over ten years) to purchase something in pink despite her friend's reservations. Why was OP unable to allow her friend to buy something that was also very much within the color scheme, especially if the friend was expected to pay for the dress herself? This friend clearly has to allow for some flexibility in her bridezilla vision for this ceremony.

    Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best reactions in the comments section. For more, check out this post about socially unacceptable things people do all the time.

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    AITA for not letting my maid of honor choose her dress? Edit 2: fine I will ask if she wants me to help pay for the dress. I still don't think I'm the Edit: I want to make it clear that Crissy is my best friend, we've known each other for almost 10 years. I'm not kicking her out of the role or asking her to step down. We're not fighting about this, she's very supportive about everything else except this one thing. I just wanted to know if I was being unreasonable expecting her to wear what I wan
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    I'm (32f) getting married in August. My best friend Crissy (fake name, 30f) agreed to be my maid of honor and seemed really excited for me. I told her I wanted my colors to be dark green and and pale pink and she agreed it was a really pretty combination. So when we were dress shopping she kept picking out green dresses. I told her I wanted her to wear pink instead. She was disappointed and said she doesn't like pink and would probably not buy a dress from the store we were at if it wasn't in a
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    Since then she has been sending me links to dresses that are NOT close to the color at all and green ones with pink floral. She made a comment about how when I was her maid of honor a few years ago, she let me buy a dress I've worn multiple times since. This me off because her colors were navy and silver, so of course the blue dress she wanted me to buy is more versatile. But it's my turn now and I think the dress is a standard part of the maid of honor role. Its making me think she's not going
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    I mentioned this to my sister and she said I was being a bridezilla. She reminded me that crissy was a really relaxed bride and that we obviously have different expectations about wedding roles and need to talk it out. I know she's probably right, but I'm upset that she thinks I'm being a bridezilla. Crissys wedding was a lot different than what I would have picked for myself- it was really casual and had a lot of cutesy, homemade elements. My style is more elegant and classy
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    and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. When I first started talking to Crissy about my wedding plans, she kept reminding me that it's one day and just a party and stuff like that. But I have dreamed about this day since I was little. I feel like Crissy doesn't understand how important it is to me that my day is picture perfect because she admitted getting married wasn't ever really important to her.
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    My fiancé says he understands why I'm upset, my sister says I and Crissy hasn't texted me back since I shot down the last few dresses she sent me. So AITA??
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    PoetRevolutionary160. 9 hr. ago Enthusiast [8] YTA. If you want her in a pink dress from a pricey boutique, you pay for it. I don't understand this tradition that a bridal party should pay for their own outfits anyway. 9.0k Reply Share
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    Delighted Lurker 9 hr. ago Enthusiast [8] Especially when the bride picks a colour and style they'll never wear again. 4.0k Reply Share
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    princess_banana_ - 9 hr. ago Enthusiast [8] YTA. Pull your head in. If you want to dictate what someone wears you cough up the cash. End of. And Pearl pink does not automatically equal elegant. Newsflash different colours work/don't work on different skin tones. 3.4k Reply Share
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    Purplefox719 hr. ago Enthusiast [8] So basically you want her to purchase a dress that she never ever would wear again? Usually pink dresses are not as desirable beyond the age of 12. Perhaps you should pay for the dress if you are so much into it. YTA 2.0k Reply Share
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    CASION Zoe2805 8 hr. ago INFO: your wedding colours are dark green and pale pink. Why are you hellbent on getting her to wear pink instead of green? She would obviously be happier with green. Yes it's your wedding, but your friends discomfort should matter to you as well. 1.8k Reply Share
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    HazyLazySummer - 9 hr. ago Info: who's paying for the dress? Because if you are that adement about the colour, you better cough up the dough. 679 Reply Share
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    bajlajs 9 hr. ago So essentialy "I want you to wear a diffrent color of a dress and I don't care if you will fell worse in it, I just want to feel good" ofc YTA, however its your wedding so you can do whetever the ..... you want. 459 Reply Share
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    Perryperry928 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Info: why are you insistent on pink for your MOH? Your posts states dark green and pink as the colour scheme so why cant she wear a dark green dress instead? Did you allocate a specific colour for your whole wedding party? Either way if your so insistent on this particular colour offer to pay the difference for whichever dress she chooses or you need to pick a new MOH. 430 Reply Share
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    Agile-Wait-7571. 8 hr. ago Being Judgmental and snobby are not really elegant and classy. The week after your wedding no one will think about it. Unless you commit to ruining relationships which you unfortunately seem to be. 389 Reply Share
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    Troytegan 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Yta. If you're going to insist it be a dress she's never gonna be able to wear again, you need to pay for it. 270 Reply Share
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    PoemHonest1394 - 7 hr. ago YTA. In your "edit 2" you still don't see yourself as the Good luck to your SO. 271 Reply Share
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